Updated Fun Facts!

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Updated Fun Facts!

In depth and random facts about BBW escort in Chicago, Erin Black

The last time I did this blog post was 2015. Some things have definitely changed while others have stayed the same (and would; I can’t change my ethnic background, after all). 

It’s interesting to see how my politics, attitudes, and boundaries have shifted and changed over three years, and even more interesting to think about how they’ve changed since I first started working in late 2012. 

So, without further ado, here are some answers to questions I get more frequently than not that are of a more personal nature.


Erin, what’s your background? Are you mixed? What’s the deal?”

I honestly have no idea where people come up with the idea that I’m more than just white, but I STILL get asked this question a lot. My ethnic background is about as northern/western European as it gets. I’m British, Irish, German, Polish, and Sicilian. I did one of those 23andMe things, and it showed exactly what I’ve been told all my life, along with a smattering of Sardinian (unsurprising, seeing as how Sicily and Sardinia are in pretty close proximity). 

So I’m white. Very white. White-privileged white. 

“What’s your sexual orientation? How would you describe your gender?”

This question is pretty complicated and nuanced, and for those reasons I normally don’t get too deep into this, but here we go.

My sexual orientation is bi/pansexual. I’m female by birth assignment, and my assigned sex aligns with my gender. I identify as a woman and my pronouns are she/her. My relationship style is non-monogamy leaning towards polyamory. 

When it comes to kink orientations, I really don’t care to be called “Mistress.” I prefer “Miss,” “Goddess,” “Erin,” or “Daddy.” I am FAR more a Daddy than I am a Mistress. While we’re on BDSM terminology, I don’t refer to submissives as “slaves.” Being a service top is very much part of my sexual identity as well. 

“Have you been effected by FOSTA?”

I personally don’t know anyone who hasn’t been effected by FOSTA, myself included. However, the effects I’ve felt haven’t done things such as put me in harms way or forced me to see clients I wouldn’t normally see.  I’m not nearly as busy as I have been in the past due to losing ad platforms and constantly having to readjust my advertising and marketing schema, but those annoyances are slight in comparison.

It’s that whole “white-privileged white” thing, and it makes a huge difference. 

If you’re curious about how other workers have been effected, I’d suggest reading and following Black politically-oriented sex workers like @RebelleCunt and @ThotScholar on Twitter. They’re both brilliant. 

“You really seem to do a lot, between being an escort, running a consulting business, maintaining websites and a server, and all the other things you do. How do you maintain balance? Do you even have time to see me?”

I do have time to see you, but that’s why booking in advance is SO IMPORTANT. While I do a lot of things, all of those things added up probably account for full-time work when put together. I just break up my work in different manners and can’t necessarily “leave work at work” since I work for myself. 

I keep things balanced by doing a lot of yoga, making time to be social with people outside of this industry, and sleeping in longer than I probably should. 😉

“I’d really love to see you, but I’m not kinky at all and have no interest in it. Can I still spend time with you?”

ABSOFUCKING-LUTELY! Kink is a lot of fun, but I can certainly have too much of a good thing. It’s really nice to get cozy with someone in softer, more romantic ways. Everyone enjoys some level of variety, and moving away from kink, for me, is variety that I not only enjoy, but that I need in order to feel balanced. 

So yes! Book me, even if you’re not interested in kink! 😀

“How long have you been doing this? Why don’t you have reviews? Where can I learn more about you?”

I’ve been doing sex work since late 2012, so I’ll be coming up on my sixth anniversary in November of this year. By some standards, that makes me “old-school,” but trust me. There are others who have been in the business FAR LONGER than I have. 

I don’t have reviews because I delisted from TER back in January. I possess my reviews, but no longer wish to participate in review culture. Considering some folks won’t read an ad, I’m hard-pressed to believe that folks who ask for reviews would be willing to get at them through TER anyway; TER delisted all American-based escorts, and doesn’t allow US-based IP addresses to access the site. So you’d need to use a VPN to get around that. 

You can learn more about me by following me on Twitter and Instagram (links in the footer), signing up for my newsletter (it’s occasional, I promise), or by booking a date with me and taking me out to dinner. 😉

That’s really it for now! I should be sending out a newsletter here once I have firm dates for NYC, so for those of you interested in booking me for my NYC trip in October, be sure to sign up for the mailing list and check back here for updates.




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10 Reasons You Should Spend Time With Me.

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Why, hello there! If this is your first time joining me, welcome to my tiny corner of colorful Internet space. If you’ve been here before, welcome back! Some of you are probably here because you googled “Chicago Prostate Massage Expert.” I certainly hope that’s true!

(This article is about the top 10 reasons to spend time with me. I highly suggest reading it, but if you’re looking more specifically for the benefits involved with prostate massage, please head here.)

I know that deciding to invest in spending time with me (or any provider, for that matter) can be quite a decision to make. Finding the time, the means, and the nerve to finally “pull the trigger” is a really special formula that doesn’t always happen as quickly or smoothly as we’d like to think it does.

I started running a few polls on Twitter, and while they don’t finish for another few days, the initial results have proven to be quite interesting.  While a majority of you cited the overall financial burden of seeing a provider as the number one reason for not booking (41% thus far), the other 59% of you have cited reasons that have nothing to do with cash flow. The second most common reason for not booking with a lady you’d like to see is normally scheduling issues and finding the time.

Y’all, seriously. Self-care is so critically important to keeping your mind, body, and spirit (if you’re into that sort of thing) operating at peak performance levels. Taking time to take care of yourself, even if just for an hour, can instantly improve your mood, your stress and anxiety levels, and help you feel happier throughout the day.

Seeing me, whether for an hour or for an evening, can have lasting positive effects on lots of different aspects of your life; here’s how!

1. Letting a Chicago prostate massage expert take care of you straight up feels amazing.

When you don’t have to think, plan, and execute, you can truly relax and let go. There’s a phenomenon known as “decision fatigue.” To explain, even if you’re physically not doing a lot throughout your day, the task of having to make continuous decisions is arduous and exhausting. Allowing someone else to make decisions for you (from taking the lead in bed to making dinner reservations) relieves some of that fatigue. I’m known to take the lead quite regularly, so all you need to do is show up and be present when you book with me.

2. There’s a ton of research out in the world that identifies stress as a major underlying cause of lots of health problems ranging from hypertension to coronary artery disease.

Coupled with our often sedentary lifestyles, this can lead to future problems. So, what does this have to do with self-care and seeing me, you ask? Well, you see, there’s research out there that states spending intimate time with another person, including booking a Chicago prostate massage, lowers systolic blood pressure (in the case of a 120/80 blood pressure reading, 120 is the systolic number).

3. Less is not more, and spending sensual, quality  time with me can lead to having more sensual, quality time in other aspects of your life.

When you have sex, your libido increases, and it can often be seen as a “use it or lose it” situation. So, if you’re looking to have more casual sexytime in your life, scheduling sexytime with a pro can jump-start that process!

4. Forms of self-care like meditation and exercise help lower your chances of having a heart attack later in life.

Relaxation + sex is a straight up 1-2 punch in a potential heart attack’s face. The sex part won’t replace vigorous exercising, but it does indeed count as moderate!

5. Have chronic pain issues like lower back pain, leg pain, or pain from injuries sustained earlier in life? Orgasms can help!

Whether that orgasm comes from yourself or another person, it matters not, but having someone else help achieve that goal is oftentimes way more fun and adventurous! Orgasms release endorphins, and endorphins help block pain receptors. Start working on being a little less pained by incorporating that orgasm into a session that includes massage, and tell pain to GTFOH.

6. Those of you who come to see me for one of my specialties may already know this, but regular Chicago prostate massage and regular orgasms can actually reduce the instances of prostate cancer.

Regular prostate stimulation helps get rid of potential infections that can oftentimes reside in the prostate. I’ll tell you this- I’ve been told my fingers and toys sure beat the hell out of heading to the doctor! Want to learn more about the benefits of prostate massage? Click here.

7. Orgasms help with insomnia.

I know I suffer from insomnia from time to time, and I’d guess you do too. Fortunately, all that stress relief coupled with a little hormone called prolactin can really help improve your sleep and sleep quality. You know when prolactin gets released? After orgasm! Couple that with having a super-awesome date beforehand and doing some private exploration and you’ve got the perfect recipe for much needed deep sleep. Ready to book? See my companionship rates here!

8. Skin to skin contact releases oxytocin, and that has major benefits.

Wanna know why? All these things release your body’s feel-good hormone, oxytocin. Having sex and being intimate can also increase your self-esteem and overall feelings of confidence.  Sex and sensual self-care aren’t just important for a healthy life, but also a happy one!

9. Self-care, be it sensual or otherwise, helps you develop love for yourself and love for your body.

Being kinder and gentler with yourself oftentimes means being kinder and gentler with others in your life, so the benefits of sensual self-care ripple outward into all aspects of your life! A Chicago prostate massage expert can really help put you and your body at ease.

10. While this reason isn’t the most important or the “deepest,” it’s probably the easiest to relate to. Spending time with me is straight up fun!

Having fun and playing are super important, and awesome ways to blow off steam. Creativity, playtime, and imagination are just as important now as they were when we were kids. Funtimes help elevate mood, relieve stress, and enhance overall well-being!

With that being said, take the time to take care of yourself fully. Don’t deny yourself the sensual and playful pleasures that come from spending time with me. Indulge yourself! Escape your workaday grind and just let go.

Hopefully I’ll be seeing more folks who need to be taken care of soon!



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I love women clients and would love to see more of you!

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Calling all Woman Clients!

Chicago's Consumate Companion, Kinkster, and Escort

The first time I ever encountered a woman client was about two years ago.

She needed parts of herself fulfilled that she wasn’t getting through her marriage to a man. She identified herself as bisexual, and wanted to be dominated by a woman. I jumped at the chance, seeing that I’m a Chicago female escort for women. I absolutely love being with women, and its a rare chance when they’re also into being dominated.

We had such an excellent time together! She was adventurous, not afraid to ask for what she wanted and needed, and we both left the experience feeling fulfilled.  I’d seen her once more after that initial experience, and I do hope that she sees me again in the future.

To put it bluntly, I adore women.

I have since I was young, but I didn’t really identify with being bisexual until about age 16. I’d always been attracted to women in general throughout my earlier years, but the sexual aspect of it never translated until the hormones started raging and a group of us watched But I’m A Cheerleader.  That was the first night I’d ever been with a girl, and it’s a memory that I treasure (and I hope she does too).

I recently reached out to other sex workers via Twitter to find out how they gained their woman clientele.  Everyone wanted to see more women.

While not much help, it was nice to know that other providers were having the  the same problem. There’s a huge societal stigma concerning women actively pursuing their sexual wants and needs. The “virgin/hooker” paradox is a mighty strong confine. Being openly bisexual is also stigmatizing, even within the LGBTQ community. Many women who come out as bisexual often get told that “they’re just going through a phase,” or that “they’ll end up coming back to men.”  While some bisexual women are indeed partnered in either same or opposite sex couplings, that doesn’t negate their bisexuality.

Navigating bisexuality/pansexuality as a provider can be hard.  I feel that at this stage in the game, I’m finally figuring out just how to use my fluid sexuality so clients can find me.

I hope I can appeal to more women searching for a Chicago female escort for women. Women should not be ashamed to seek out pleasure in this manner. Dating is a nightmare.  Meeting people who can fulfill your desires can be difficult. Women should have the same societal access to hired companionship as men.  Women should be as guilt-free about pleasure-focused encounters as men.

An eye-opening discussion occurred on The Erotic Review.  There are a few resident women hobbyists there, and luck for me, they’ve spoken up.  The feedback from these women prompted me to stress that my services are gender-inclusive.  It was also suggested that escorts seeking women clients should adjust their images and websites to make them more attractive to women.

I decided to take that advice. I want to make it very clear that I welcome all women.

If you’re a woman and reading this, I hope that you’ll consider contacting me. I can’t wait to hear from you!

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More about my style of play.

More on my style of play

Many of you have found your way to me because you’re looking to expand your sexual horizons, or you already have tastes that are epicurean.

You’ve definitely come to the right place; I absolutely adore catering to fetishists, bdsm players, and of course those looking to simply broaden their horizons and experiment!

Sensuality is really important to me.  I know there are those of you out there who love the idea of being with a voluptuous, tattooed bbw, but don’t necessarily want the kink. This is of course a possibility! Everyone enjoys variety, and I am absolutely no different. As a sensual hedonist, I really enjoy all sorts of sexytime exploits, and romantic, sensual encounters are definitely on the list of things I enjoy!

As a kink-oriented individual by nature, my tendencies lean towards service topping and dominance.  Serivce-topping is a really specific term that essentially means that I love doing things to you that you want me to do. Longing for someone to strap up and take you from behind? Into it. Interested in experiencing prostate massage for the first time with someone who is patient and well-versed? Into it.  Curious about loss of control, me taking you to the edge and back, and building you to one of the most intense orgasms you’ll ever have? Into it. 

My toy and equipment collection is pretty extensive.  Perhaps, you might even have some fantasies that involve cross-dressing, lingerie, shoes, and other sensual items.  I absolutely love this kind of play and love gender-bending/gender fuckery (as long as it’s in no way demeaning or humiliating)! We’re really only limited by our imaginations!

 Rougher, dominant, woman-led sexual experiences are some of my favorites; I love to take control and tell you exactly what I want, when and how I want it.

I love being pleased and using people for my own pleasure.  Do you want me to ravish you completely with no signs of letting up? into it. Want to spend time worshipping every inch of my curvy, soft body? Into it. 

Because I entered into this world as a professional dominatrix and mistress, I still thoroughly enjoy more traditional BDSM sessions as well.

From flogging and caning to spanking and other forms of impact play to electrical play, heavy bondage and more, I’m well-versed and very educated in safe, sane, consensual play. I especially love role play that takes on the form of me as a disciplinarian (Mommy and Teacher especially) and you as my naughty boy or student.  Please note that while I can be a stern mommy, teacher, or disciplinarian, I’m only physically and mentally sadistic when someone expresses that want. I am not into guessing your needs or wants in any way

Consensual non-consent sessions are best once we’ve gotten to know one another.  I am not a mean-spirited or cruel person.  I revel in your delight in submission and exploration and have no desire to “force” you to do anything unless it is specifically pre-arranged and part of a role play.

Here’s a list of activities I love:

  • Anal training
  • Body Worship (ass, feet, legs, etc)
  • Bondage (cling film, tape, cuffs, rope)
  • CBT
  • Chastity Training/key holding
  • Corporal Punishment and Impact Play
  • Cross-dressing/panty play
  • Cuckold Play (real or role play)
  • Doubles/triples Sessions with my favorite ladies/gentlemen
  • Edging
  • Face Sitting/Smothering
  • Face Slapping
  • Fetish clothing, such as leather, latex, stockings, and lingerie
  • Fisting
  • Humiliation
  • Medical Play/Sounding (basic scenes)
  • Nipple Play/Torture
  • Objectification/Human Furniture
  • Pegging/Strap-on training/Strap-on worship
  • Play Piercing
  • Prostate Massage
  • Role Play (Doctor/patient, Teacher/student, Age Play Race Play, etc).
  • Sensory Play/Sensory Deprivation
  • Spanking (especially OTK)
  • Sploshing/Messy Play
  • Spitting
  • Tease and Denial
  • TENS unit
  • Temperature Play
  • Tickling/Tickle Torture
  • Trampling
  • Toys for boys
  • Violet/Neon Wand
  • Watersports
  • Wax Play

I know that this list is really extensive, but its really reflective of where my personal interests are! If you’re unfamiliar with any of these terms, please do Google them.  If your particular interest isn’t listed here, please feel free to contact me! All session negotiations are done after screening is completed, so once that’s done, we can really get into the nitty-gritty about what you’re looking for.

I hope this helps everyone understand that my style of play is intensely sensual, thoroughly indulgent, and all-encompassing. I can’t wait to play!

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Most folks simply hope for what they want.
Not you, though.
You get what you want.

My January availability is as follows:

January Availability:
1/13: 5-9p
1/14: 11-9p
1/16: 5-9p
1/20: 5-9p
1/30: 5-9pm

Work wife Roxanne Dupri will be visiting before we bounce off to LA! Get in touch if you’d like to schedule a duo on 1/23.

Remember my availability is pretty limited in Chicago, and I’ve got 3 bookings available for the month of January!

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