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You know you love a big, fine woman. Are you willing to admit that publicly, or is your need for a soft belly, heavy breasts, and a big ass something you need to indulge in more privately? Whichever it is matters not to me. You can come bury your face in my tits and ass. and have Chicago BBW Body Worship with me, Erin Black.

Trust me; I love every second of it.

Maybe you’re interested in giving me a sensual massage and letting your hands and mouth explore my body.

Oh, you want a woman who takes what she wants? Then lie back and let me sit on your face in just the right spot.

If you’re into smothering and breath control while having your nose deep between my ass and thighs, I’ll set a timer and see how long you can hold your breath. Don’t worry. You’ll be handsomely distracted all the while.

Questions about Chicago NYC body worship? Check out this FAQ.

Each session is designed specifically to suit what you’re looking for, and no two sessions are the same!

However, if you’re looking specifically for body worship, the session will just encompass that. You’ll be able to explore my body, worship my ass, belly, breasts, feet, thighs, etc., and attempt to please me with your mouth ( and hands, if I give permission).

I can also just sit on your face, show my ass off to you, do toy shows,  and the like. Let’s get creative and have fun with it!

My preference is to eventually end up nude. However, if you prefer a full panty, leggings, stockings, or other undergarment, please let me know and I’ll do my best to accommodate your request!

You can have your cake and eat it, too. 😉 I do ask that when sending over your wants and desires that you keep the length of the session you want in mind.

If you’re interested in combining multiple areas of play, I do recommend booking at least 90 minutes so we aren’t rushed.

Unless you specifically request otherwise, I certainly will be! This touching can include my hands, feet, lips, and mouth depending on the scene.

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Detroit, Charlotte, and Charleston SC This October!

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Detroit, Charlotte, and Charleston SC Tour Dates!

Looking for a BBW blonde kinky escort in Detroit, Charlotte, or Charleston? I'll be in town!

Well, hello there! I’ve decided to hit the road again after a great time in NYC this past month.

I’m headed to Detroit October 12-14th, and I’ll be available with Addy Finch. We’re a blast. Take us out for dinner and watch us revel in or rip apart a menu. 😉 If you’d like to see a reenactment of our most famously awful dinner, please do let us know and be prepared to have a James Beard nominee ripped apart in the cutest, sexiest way possible. 😉

 Outside of Detroit, I’m going to scope out a few cities below the Mason-Dixon, which is pretty rare for me. So here’s hoping I’ll find some fun tour guides to take me out for date nights in Charlotte NC and Charleston SC! Also keep in mind that my dates overlap those of Gem DeMilo, and we’ll be available for duos, trios, and more in both these cities!

Based on my research, both Charlotte and Charleston are culinarily ripe for the picking, so there’s no shortage in great food and fun to be had.

Here’s my short list of restaurants and bars I’d love to hit up in Charlotte:

  • Dot Dot Dot is a speakeasy-style joint that’s in a storage unit behind a shopping center. Sign me up for clandestine drinks! Apparently there’s a $10 membership fee for the year, but who cares. It’ll be worth it!
  • The Crunkleton is a kinda-large bar that seats 84. It’s in a restaurant called Elizabeth that I’d also love to try, so why not make it a dinner and drinks kinda night? The Crunkleton also has a $10 membership fee, and it seems that if liquor sales outweigh food sales, an establishment has to pay dues, and that’s passed on to patrons as a membership fee. Weird, but ok. I love cocktails so an extra $10 isn’t too bad.
  • Idlewild is a casual cocktail spot that doesn’t have a set menu. Letting the talents of the bartenders shine is something that’s not as prominent as it used to be in cocktail culture, and getting something custom-made to your tastes always feels really special.
  • Soul Gastrolounge is the original cocktail place in Charlotte and has a really interesting and varied food and drink menu.
  • Haberdish is a southern-driven restaurant, so there’s no surprise that their mint julep is a favorite. They also have a drink called The Apothocary, which comes with a sidecar of CBD oil. I’m in.

Here’s my shortlist of spots I’d like to go to in Charleston, SC:

  • Dalila’s takes classics and gives them twists, which I’m always up for ( I love old-fashioneds made with great rum or reposado tequila). The food is small plates that are Cuban-influenced; I’m here for it all.
  • Babas on Cannon takes inspiration from pincho spots in Spain, aperitivo in Italy, and French cafes and combines them in to a place where expertly executed cocktails, unique wines, and tasty small plates take center stage. I love to share and try lots of things on a menu, so a pincho-style place is right up my alley.
  • Bourbon and Bubbles is definitely billed as a luxury bar/restaurant, and the dark, romantic environment makes it a perfect date night location. Bourbon and Champagne are two of my favorite libations, so why not?
  • Martin’s BBQ Joint is on this list because I really love good BBQ, particularly pork ribs. Let’s get messy and then hose one another off after we’ve gorged on brisket, mac and cheese, and coleslaw.

Just as a reminder, you don’t have to take me anywhere; we can just relax privately with one another, have some drinks, and then get down. Honestly, sometimes an escape from all the formality of dinner and drinks is what we both really need! Just make sure to stop and grab a drink for us, won’t you?

Ready to book, or perhaps you’d like to find out more about what I offer and what I’m into? Either way, I hope to see you in either Detroit, Charlotte, or Charleston this October!

xoxo

Erin

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Butt Stuff: Prostate Massage, Strap-on, and Anal Play Prep for Both Tops and Bottoms

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Preparing for Prostate Massage, Strap-on Play, and Anal Play

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I can remember it like it was yesterday- the first client I ever had came to me specifically because I advertised as a Chicago prostate massage escort who does strap-on play and prostate massage. I’d partaken in these activities many a time in my personal life as a top (the doer/giver of said activities), and I’d been blessed with bottoms (the receiver of said activity) who were experienced and really into it. The people I’d played with were so into these things, that they had their own prep routines, toys, preferred lubes, and puppy pads ready to go, and it made my experience as a top seamless. These folks had prepared so well, that there wasn’t any distraction from the situation at hand (heh heh).

My first-ever client though? Not so much. Not only was he ill-prepared in lots of departments (he definitely fibbed about his level of experience and to my dismay didn’t come with his favorite toys in tow or a very clean ass), and my lack of professional experience didn’t help matters for me or my bedding.

Now, almost seven years later, I’ve had my fingers, fists, and toys in more assholes than a combination urologist/proctologist, both personally and professionally. So who better to try and guide anal newbs, right?

I’ve broken this down into two sections- one section for the givers of said anal pleasures, and a section for the receivers. While there is different prep involved for both sides, I’d highly suggest reading both sections so you can build empathy and rapport with your butt buddy. Believe me; knowing what’s going on with your partner really makes the experience a whole lot better. So without further adieu:

Preparing for Prostate Massage, Strap-on Play, and Anal Play for Tops

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So, you’ve finally decided to get on board with the trend and offer anal play to your clients. Or perhaps you’ve been really curious about all the fuss and why people with prostates are falling over themselves looking for willing fingers to get into their asses. Maybe you’re just really turned on by penetrating your partner anally. Trust me; I get it. I really, really do. I’m a Chicago prostate massage escort. It’s hot to me.

I’m here to dispel some myths, prepare you for worst-case scenarios, and tell you things that will make you squick, cringe, laugh, and even turn you on. Because with prostate massage, strap-on play, and anal play in general, you’ll run the emotional gamut.

Before we even get to the play date, though, you’ll need to be prepared, both with your brain and in your supply closet. Here’s a list of basics that you’ll want around if you want to make anal play a thing you do ever:

Basic supplies for prostate massage, strap-on, and anal play

  • Latex-free nitrile gloves. I buy them in black, on Amazon, in bulk. I keep them in a few different sizes at my incall location, and outside of condoms, they’re the one thing I’d never want to run out of.
  • Condoms, both latex and latex-free. Toy coverage is important, particularly if you’re sharing toys. Plus condoms can really help to contain any unexpected messes.
  • Puppy pads/Chux/Absorbent bed pads. These will save any surface your bottom is laying/kneeling/hovering above, and are just as important for catching excess lube and tossing used toys onto as they are for catching any ass leakage.
  • Lube, both water-based and silicone-based. I love Sliquid for water-based and hybrid lubes, and love Gun Oil for silicone-based. Oil-based lubes, Crisco, coconut oil, Boy Butter, and the like are best saved for large insertions, anal stretching, and fisting. Give your bottom options for their lube experience! Just remember your lube compatibilities (no oil-based with latex, use caution with silicone toys and silicone lube, etc).

The above things are really all you need, outside of your hands, to have a fucking rad prostate massage or anal insertion experience. Most of the prostate massages I give are done solely with my hands, with toys used when folks are ready to take more. If you’re anticipating playing with folks who are going to be interested in more than just your hands, or your hands are small (mine are… big, so I get away with less toy use for prostate/anal play), you’ll want to have these things on hand as well:

More advanced supplies and toys for prostate massage, strap-on, and anal play

  • Dildos of varying sizes, starting quite small in size. I personally prefer Tantus brand dildos for work purposes; they’re really great quality silicone, can be easily sanitized, and they’re durable AF. I’ve had several of their toys for well over four years and there’s little to no deterioration on them. I’m also one of those people who uses silicone lube with silicone toys (most pre-lubed condoms have silicone in the lube), and that’s been a non-issue. Also note, that all of those mega monster dildo cocks that you see in porn aren’t actually used a lot IRL. I have a few of them, and they’re truly more for intimidation/humiliation purposes and don’t serve much of a role outside of that unless I have a really greedy/hungry bottom who can actually take them.

A WORD ON INSERTABLES: Please, for the love of your body and the safety of your play partner, don’t buy cheap toys that smell like new carpet and gasoline when you take them out of the package. “Jelly” toys are full of carcinogenic agents, and anal tissue is highly vascular and super absorbent. Large dildos are often made from materials that are less than ideal to keep them affordable, and they may be so big that they can’t be covered with condoms. If your partner is interested in these, I suggest that your partner have THEIR OWN, and that these not be shared between people. The smell of these toys is often nauseating and can give folks headaches, too. High-quality insertables are not cheap, and you should only be using toys that are non-porous and can be easily sanitized/sterilized. Toys made with high-quality silicone, stainless steel, and glass are the only toys that enter me or my play partners.

  • Prostate specific toys. Whoo, these vary wildly too, and will ultimately depend on the comfort and level of intensity your bottom is looking for. My absolute go-to in this category is the Njoy Pure Wand. It’s solid stainless steel and weighs something like 2-3 lbs and can double as a weapon, but it’s prevented me from developing carpal tunnel. While there are lots of other toys like it on the market, the quality and durability of the Pure Wand is unsurpassed.

    Another prostate go-to that most people will find when looking for prostate toys is the Aneros. I personally have zero experience with this toy, as anyone who’s come to me and said they bought one used it a few times and decided they didn’t like it. Your experience may differ though!

  • A strap-on harness. These vary wildly in style, support, comfort level, and price. I personally prefer SpareParts harnesses, as they’re washable, comfortable, and really supportive. I highly recommend trying on harnesses when possible, and if you have a Pleasure Chest, Babeland, or awesome local toy store, you should be able to try them on with no worry.
  • Butt plugs of varying sizes. I honestly don’t use these a whole whole lot in prostate massage/strap-on scenarios, but they’re great to have around in case someone needs some loosening up. I find the firmer the plug, the better, and if it’s angled to do prostate stimulation, great!
  • Poppers. Yep, I said it. If you really want to get into anal play and offer your play partners an experience that they’ll definitely not forget, you’ll want to keep poppers on hand. Of course, you can always have your bottom bring their own, but I’ve turned many a person onto poppers to enhance prostate massage, strap-on, and anal play experiences and it’s changed their whole world. 

Communication with your bottom/client

Now that we’ve gotten through a supply list, we really need to go over communication with your bottom. If it’s your first time administering a prostate massage or any form of anal play, let them know! Doing something for the first time isn’t shameful, and you don’t have to be an expert in order to do it. What you do need to do though, is be up front about your level of experience, or inexperience, as may be.

You’ll also need to address your bottom’s /client’s level of experience as well. Jokes abound when it comes to the truthfulness regarding a bottom’s experience (I’ve had folks tell me they’ve never had anything in their ass and then proceed to take almost half my hand), but getting an idea of where you’ll want to start is important. It’ll inform your toy selection, positioning, and length of time you’ll need for the session. For inexperienced players, I definitely recommend a longer period of time, ninety minutes minimum, and starting out with your client on their back. It’s a position that’s easy to relax into.

Cleanliness is next to godliness: How to tell a grown ass person to clean their ass out.

Okay! So you’ve got some basic toys, all the gloves you could want, and you’ve ditched your white comforter and thrown down the puppy pad. They’ve arrived, you’ve talked a bit, and you’re excited and ready to go. So are they! Time for your client to put their heels to Jesus, right?

NAH. Stop right there.

You’ve wrongly assumed that your client is prepped the way they should be, and you’re about to be in for a shock. Here’s why:

In this scenario, your client is probably a cisgendered, heterosexually-identified man who’s never truly thought about the cleanliness of his asshole. He may have never even considered scrubbing and washing it thoroughly, let alone cleaning inside of it. He might even be one of those guys who thinks grooming and taking care of one’s appearance isn’t “manly” and might even have some programming around ass play being identified with gayness. Or, he could just be wildly unaware of his own asshole!

While lots of men do take this into consideration, a lot of cis hetero-identified men do not.

Remember the first-ever client that I saw? I assumed very incorrectly that he knew how to prep correctly and was left to deal with all kinds of shitty mess. I was under the assumption that a grown-ass man knew how to handle his own body and asshole. I was wrong. So very, very wrong.

Before your bottom even gets to you, send them this as a homework assignment. Quiz them on it, too:

HOW TO CLEAN YOUR ASS FOR ANAL SEX

It’s a really great cartoon on how to clean your ass for anal sex, and is super applicable to any sort of anal play. Have them pay particular attention to that part about going past the sigmoid colon, lest you’d like to get the front of yourself covered in ass water. Not that I’d know anything about that or anything, or why I have a latex apron. Anyway!

In our particular situation, I’d anticipate your client needing time to prep at your space. Make sure to let them know that they’ll need to bring their own enema bulb/supplies, and that the time will be included as part of the session. You’ll be amazed how many folks come prepared once you tell them prep time is on-the-clock. 😉

Also of note: if you’re going to supply Fleet enemas, or your client is going to pick one up, make sure you don’t use the liquid that comes with it! It’s a laxative, and we’re only looking to clean out a portion of the colon. Dump the contents and fill it with warm water instead.

Even if your client is prepped, I’d suggest having them hop in the shower or thoroughly clean up/wash prior to getting started. Precautionary measures, after-all.

A word on hemorrhoids and anal fissures: if your client has hemorrhoids and they are currently inflamed or an anal fissure, do not pass go and do not collect $200. Anal play is only going to make the situation worse. Hemorrhoids themselves don’t have to mean no anal play, and here’s some tips for getting around that situation.  Anal fissures are notoriously tough to heal, and need to be left alone. If your client currently has an anal fissure or tear, ass play is absolutely a no-go.

You can learn more about anal fissures here.

Hey, Erin! Is there anything tops can do, hygiene-wise, to prep for giving a prostate massage, anal play, or strap-on play?

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I’m really so glad you asked! Honestly, outside of your regular routine, there’s really only one major thing you should do before going near someone’s asshole with your fingers: take care of your hands!

Whether that entails getting a manicure or trimming your nails/hangnails on your own, make sure your hands are something you’d want near your own delicate places. You’ll be wearing gloves, so a lot can be forgiven, but just do a quick check and make sure you don’t have any broken nails or anything jagged that could be felt through a glove.  If you’re femme and have cute-ass stiletto or coffin nails, make sure to stuff cotton balls into the fingertips of your gloves. Trust me, I’ve accidentally poked a prostate with a stiletto nail because I forgot to do this. It’s a faux-pas that can be hard to come back from and leave your client really uncomfortable.

The Main Event!

Now that your client/butt buddy is well-prepped and ready to go, it’s time to start the action! Lay that puppy pad down, have your supplies ready and easily accessible, and get down to it!

**Because this is an article pertaining to the basics of anal play in general, there’s not specific technique for prostate play mentioned. That’s going to be in a follow-up article!**

If it’s your client’s first time (hell, if you’re ever going to be in someone’s ass, period), they need to be turned on. You can’t just lube up and jam your fingers/a dildo into someone’s asshole. This is a one-way ticket to anal fissure town, and that’s not the kind of impression you want to leave. Chances are your client is going to be nervous, and you’ll need to help them relax in order to make this a pleasant experience for the both of you.

When it comes to getting a client turned on and not quite so nervous, I’m a big fan of massage and hand jobs, and if I’m feeling flexible enough, I’ll include oral. Paying attention to your client’s body cues, breathing, and erection will let you know when they’re ready, but definitely feel free to mix it up. You have your own methods as to how you turn a nervous client into a turned on one, and this really should be integrated into what could be considered the “warm-up phase” of your anal adventure.

It does not matter if your client booked a prostate massage, a strap-on session, or some other anally-focused experience; their asshole needs to be warmed up and prepared to take whatever you’re going to put in it. Use lots of lube, more lube, and go slowly! Remember asking about their level of experience? This is where that information comes in really handy. Newbs will need a lot more warm-up time. Folks experienced with anal play may need less. You’ll know when your client is ready for more; you’ll feel their asshole relax and become more pliable, their body will relax and cues will become apparent. When in doubt, ask! I talk to my clients A LOT during anal experiences; from making sure I’m in the right spot for prostate play to permission to insert a bigger toy for anal stretching, communication is key (even if it is along the lines of ‘is that greedy hole ready for more?’).

Also, don’t concentrate solely on your client’s ass; pay attention to their dick, balls, perineum, and general genital area. It all feels amazing and will add to their pleasure exponentially! While the experience is anally focused, it doesn’t mean all the pleasure is all anally focused; folks who are new to receiving anal play will often need more genital stimulation than those who have learned to harness their anal feelings and use them for pleasure.

I should note here something really important when it comes to anal play of any sort: your client’s dick may or may not stay hard the entire time, and chances are it will cycle through periods of being hard and being limp. This does not mean your client isn’t turned on; chances are they are super into what you’re doing. If your client starts to worry about their dick not being hard, remind them that ultimately as long as what you’re doing feels great, the hardness of their dick doesn’t matter. When in doubt, share this snippet of info with them:

The same pelvic floor muscles that contract in order to keep a dick hard are also the same muscles that need to relax in order for an asshole to open up.

OH NO! MY CLIENT HATES THIS OMG IM BAD AT THIS WHYYYYY

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First off, don’t freak. This isn’t entirely a reflection on you and chances are it’s not a reflection on you at all.

You’ve done all the right things, communicated, and your client is just not into it and not having the experience they’d hoped for. That’s okay! Everyone’s body reacts differently to new stimuli, and I’ve had a few clients over the years really dislike or not get into prostate massage and anal play at all. Unfortunately, prostate massage and anal play has gained a reputation as being a Holy Grail™ sexual experience that makes everyone feel incredible and for some people this just isn’t true. If your client is one of those folks, and you can simply drop the activity and move onto something else that you’ll both be happy with.

I tell this story to clients whenever they’re disappointed that anal play wasn’t what they thought it would be:

The first time I ever had g-spot stimulation, I was NOT into it, in the least.  I didn’t like it, my body tensed up, and I couldn’t relax. It was a new sensation that neither my brain nor my body knew how to process, and I asked for the experience to end pretty quickly.  I was curious though, and with time and patience, came to understand the wonder that is that particular area of my body. Prostate stimulation isn’t much different in that sense, and can often take the body and brain some time to process.

Also, keep in mind that the more experience you gain in this area as practitioner, the more likely you’ll be to give your client a stellar experience. Your client should be understanding and empathetic towards you as someone who’s new at giving!

Cumming To an End: The Old Faithful Experience

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You’ve gotten in there, and you’ve worked your magic through a series of fingers, toys, oral, dick massage, and the like. Your client is now on the brink of orgasm! Fucking awesome! How, where, and when your client orgasms is entirely up to the two of you, but here are some things you should expect.

Cum volume/viscosity will be wildly different from what you’re used to. Oftentimes, cum will be much more watery, and there will be a lot more of it. When the prostate is stimulated, it produces more seminal fluid. On top of that, an orgasm that includes anal play is often far more intense and longer-lasting than that of an orgasm produced simply through genital stimulation.

If everything goes right, your client might just be in for the most intense orgasm they’ve ever had, and that’s probably why they’re searching out this experience in the first place.

Your post-orgasm client is probably in a play-doh-like pile and unable to do much except lie there. The one thing they might be able to do, however, is tell you to get whatever’s in their asshole out of there ASAP. While your first inclination might be to just snatch out your hand or the toy, you’ll want to go slow. The sensation of having something removed from your ass can be just as intense as something going in. The directional movement out of the ass is also the way nature likes things to move, so your client’s body can also help with this.

Keep in mind though, that no matter how well your client prepped, all that moving and shaking may have caused some things to come loose. On occasion, some fecal matter will come out with your fingers/toys. No big deal, really. You signed up for ass-play after all. If it’s on your glove, take the glove off from the bottom up and ensure the glove turns inside-out; same goes for the condom that’s on the toy- let it roll over itself and turn inside-out to allow for easier clean-up.

Also, keep any comments about minimal post-play mess to yourself. It’s an ass. There’s bound to be some kind of mess at one point or another. However if the mess is extreme, you might want to recommend better prep for your client in the future. If there’s no mess and you’re thoroughly impressed, let your client know! It encourages them to keep up that prep routine for future playtime with you and others.

Keep the puppy pad/towel under your client until they’re ready to get up and clean themselves up. They’ll probably want a shower due to the copious amounts of lube you’ve used during the experience.

And Scene! Fin. The End. You did it!

You had your first anal experience and if all went well, you squicked, squeed, laughed, and enjoyed your whole way through it, and so did your client. If you want to find out what went well and what could have been better, ask your client and don’t take things personally. This is a very new skill you’re learning, and having feedback is important if you want to get really good at it! Of course, you might have just hated it and in that case, now you know. You shouldn’t feel obligated to continue on this path unless you truly want to. No shame in trying and deciding something isn’t for you. 

If you’d like more information, I’d recommend reading the entry below that’s geared towards bottoms. The more knowledge the better, right? I’m also working on a series that addresses specific activities, so for all of you looking for a prostate massage how-to, you’re in luck! 

I’m hoping you found this article helpful, and I’m opening up the comments to take questions. I’ll answer them when I can! 

Until then, remember that spelunking isn’t just for caves.

xoxo

Erin

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Preparing for Prostate Massage, Strap-on Play, and Anal Play for Bottoms

Get your ass in gear!

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So, you’ve finally decided to see what all the fuss is about. You’ve heard snippets of conversations about just how enjoyable prostate massage, strap-on play, and other forms of anal play can be. You might have even tried it yourself, liked it, and you’re ready to take the plunge with a pro! You being the cognizant and well-read client that you are, decided to search the internet for information on how to prepare for your first anal experience and it’s lead you to me.

Thank goodness, really. I’ve been doing this for quite a while and I’ve given oodles of ass advice to countless clients over the years.

Just like the article pertaining to providers/tops, I’m here to dispel some myths, prepare you for worst-case scenarios, and tell you things that will make you squick, cringe, laugh, and even turn you on. Because with prostate massage, strap-on play, and anal play in general, you’ll run the emotional gamut.

Before you even show up at your top’s space though, we need to talk about being mentally and physically prepared for an anally focused experience, whether that’s prostate massage, strap-on play, or other types of anal experiences.

You're Not Gay, But Anal Play Sure Is: A Lie in Three Parts.

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First and foremost, your sexual orientation and gender identity matter not when it comes to anal play. There are a ton of gay women who love anal, and a lot of gay men who hate it. There are straight men and women who love and hate both giving and receiving anal play too, as well as gender non-conforming and non-binary folks who love ! Your asshole is not gay simply because you want something in it. Butt plugs, dildos, strap-ons, and poppers aren’t gay in and of themselves either, so seriously. Get over that nonsense once and for all and start enjoying the sensations that are available to you as a human with a prostate. Let go of your preconceived notions; open your mind, and your asshole will follow!

First-Hand Experience: Finding a Provider

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When I first started offering anal play, prostate massage, and strap-on play as an escort, it was something that wasn’t being done by many. For years, you either had to sacrifice the intimacy and go see a professional dominatrix for an anally focused experience, or you had to ditch the kink all together for an escort. Gone are those days! There are a lot of providers who specialize in BDSM, kink, fetishes, and giving prostate massages, strap-on play, and anal play. Professional dommes offer a specific kind of experience, which in most cases, is going to be a lot more restricted and have more specific boundaries in place regarding what you can and cannot do with said domme. Fetish providers and escorts who specialize in kink and fetish will tend to offer a more inclusive experience. Be sure to read lots of websites and see who’s style you most identify with! There’s a place for both professional dommes and fetish providers/specialized escorts in the world of anal play, and it’s really all about what you’re looking for.

Booking a Session: Don't Say Shit That Will Get You Blocked.

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Protocol for booking an experience with a domme vs an experience with an escort are, in my experience, totally different. Most dommes want you to explicitly list what your interests are to make sure you’re a good match for a session, while most escorts will stop the conversation if you say anything explicit.

Read your chosen providers website! The contents and context of the website should provide clues as to how you can communicate your wants to them. If, however, they specialize in prostate massage, strap-on play, or anal play, an escort quite often will charge additionally for those services and list it as such. A domme will often have a page that lists her interests, and again, ask you to be clear about yours. Either way, if the provider has a screening policy, it’s best not to ask specific, explicit questions prior to being screened.

You're On the Schedule: How To Be Best Prepared.

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Okay! So you’ve found your provider, booked your session, and you’ve got the date on your calendar. You’re hype and ready to go, and you can’t wait for her to open the door and start in on your ass. You go in, set your rate down, and rush off to the bedroom, right?

Whoa, there! I really hope that you know this provider really well and that you thoroughly cleaned out your asshole before even making it to her place.

“Wait, cleaned out my asshole? But Erin, I took a shit 2 hours ago. I’m fine, right?”

WRONG.

I mean, the whole “taking a shit” thing is really helpful. But my friend, you are far from okay. 

You hired someone to get really intimate with what’s traditionally considered to be a taboo and “dirty” part of your body. 

Shit is, well, shit. 

We are evolutionarily designed to avoid it (no offense, scat lovers), and making sure your ass is as clean as can be guarantees you a much better and easier experience. And let’s be real— even those who do offer fetish work around scat don’t want a prostate massage client to turn into an unexpected scat play client. 

To be frank, you might even have a little bit of that conditioning I talked about in the intro, where any kind of contact with your ass/asshole is “gay” or “dirty,” so you might not even really be cleaning it well anyway. I really hope this isn’t the case, but almost seven years of experiences tells me otherwise.

If you really want to make a great impression and be welcomed back for additional sessions, you should really take the time and read the handy-dandy guide below!

HOW TO CLEAN YOUR ASS FOR ANAL SEX

Ideally, this prep is done on your own time, before you get to the provider’s space. If, however, you don’t have the privacy needed to facilitate this kind of prep work, you’ll need to let your provider know and book time accordingly. Your prep time in a provider’s space is on-the-clock unless the provider tells you otherwise. 

The easiest way to prep in a provider’s space is to either have your own enema bulb or pick up a Fleet enema. If you’re using the Fleet, dump the contents and fill it with warm water. If the provider has Dr. Bronner’s soap, add a drop or two. The rest is covered in the tutorial linked, so just be sure to follow those instructions!

Even if you do come prepped, I’d come with the expectation that you’ll be asked to shower before play begins. 

A word on hemorrhoids and anal fissures: if you have inflamed hemorrhoids or an anal fissure, do not pass go and do not collect $200. Anal play is only going to make the situation worse, and you should re-book the date. Hemorrhoids themselves don’t have to mean no anal play, and here’s some tips for getting around that situation.  Anal fissures are notoriously tough to heal, and need to be left alone. If you currently has an anal fissure or tear, ass play is absolutely a no-go.

You can learn more about anal fissures here.

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The Main Event!

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Now that you’re well-prepped and ready to go, it’s time to start the action! Lay down on that puppy pad, and start to relax. I know you’re probably really nervous, and that’s okay! Nerves are always part of any new experience, and your provider should be able to lead you through different techniques to help you calm down. Deep breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth is incredibly helpful, and also has the secondary effect of helping your anal sphincter and pelvic floor muscles relax.

Those muscles, the anal sphincter and your pelvic floor muscles, have to relax in order to get anything inside your ass. It’s paramount. If you’re clenching and bearing down, there’s no way anyone can get anything in there. So relax. Breathe. Repeat.

Being turned on is a huge help when it comes to being able to relax, and your provider will do what she knows needs to be done in order to get you there based on the boundaries of the session. If she’s told you it’s ok for you to touch your genitals but she won’t, respect her boundaries. You’re also free to express your own boundaries concerning her touching you, so if you’re trying to have a very anally-focused experience and don’t want your genitals touched, let her know.

Honestly, communication is paramount to ensure you both have an enjoyable time. If something doesn’t feel right, is uncomfortable, or painful, speak up! Anal play may feel different, but it shouldn’t ever be painful. Ask for more lube if you need more before your provider reapplies. Ask them to move faster/slower, or direct the pressure in a certain area. You’re exploring this part of your body for the first time, and so is your provider, so any guidance is often appreciated.

I should note here something really important when it comes to anal play of any sort: your  dick may or may not stay hard the entire time, and chances are it will cycle through periods of being hard and being limp. This does not mean you’re not turned on or that there’s something wrong; it’s anatomy. The same pelvic floor muscles that contract in order to keep your dick hard are also the same muscles that need to relax in order for your asshole to open up. Don’t worry about being impressive with your hard dick. As long as you’re enjoying what’s happening, your boner should be secondary, and trust me. It’ll come back when you’re ready to cum.

I’d like to take the opportunity at this point in our program to discuss anal/prostate orgasm and prostate milking. Tons of porn abounds concerning these areas, and I want to settle this right now.

You will (probably) not anally orgasm the first time you have an anal experience. You will (probably) not have a prostate orgasm the first time you have a prostate experience. Prostate milking, to produce complete semen, takes time and training. Your body and brain both have to learn what to do with these sensations, and to achieve those goals takes time. The porn you’re watching with people anally orgasming/prostate orgasming is number one, a fantasy and number two, a fantasy produced using professional bottoms who have years of experience making their bodies do these things.

The fewer unrealistic expectations you have, the more enjoyable your experience will be, so ditch the porn ideal unless playing the movie in your head helps you cum.

OMG ERIN I DON'T LIKE THIS: What To Do When It's Just Not It.

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First off, don’t freak. This is an entirely new sensation and your body is more than likely a little thrown off. Your prostate might be more sensitive than you imagined, or you really just might not be able to compute everything that’s happening.

And all of that is okay!

Everyone’s body reacts differently to new stimuli, and I’ve had a few clients over the years really dislike or not get into prostate massage and anal play at all. Unfortunately, prostate massage and anal play has gained a reputation as being a Holy Grail™ sexual experience that makes everyone feel incredible and for some people this just isn’t true. You may be one of those folks who’s just not into it, and you can simply drop the activity and move on to something else.

I tell this story to clients whenever they’re disappointed that anal play wasn’t what they thought it would be:

The first time I ever had g-spot stimulation, I was NOT into it, in the least.  I didn’t like it, my body tensed up, and I couldn’t relax. It was a new sensation that neither my brain nor my body knew how to process, and I asked for the experience to end pretty quickly.  I was curious though, and with time and patience, came to understand the wonder that is that particular area of my body. Prostate stimulation isn’t much different in that sense, and can often take the body and brain some time to process.

If the experience wasn’t what you thought it would be but you’re still curious, keep exploring! Whether that’s done on your own or with another provider or partner, you can turn something that once wasn’t your cup of tea into something you can’t get enough of. 

Cumming To an End: The Old Faithful Experience

Chances are that your anal experience has also been an experience in tease and denial; your dick has been cycling through stages of hardness, and either you or your provider have provided some sort of genital stimulation to get you to where you need to go. 

If everything goes right, you might just be in for the most intense orgasm you’ve ever had, and that’s probably why you’ve searched out this experience in the first place. You may notice that your orgasm lasts longer, or that you’re able to get hard again faster. Prostate and anal play can reduce the length of your refractory period. But again, don’t hold me to that, as your experience relies heavily on you, your body, and your chosen provider’s abilities.

Cum volume/viscosity will be wildly different from what you’re used to. Oftentimes, cum will be much more watery, and there will be a lot more of it. When the prostate is stimulated, it produces more seminal fluid. 

Your post-orgasm self is probably in a play-doh-like pile and unable to do much. You may notice, however, that you immediately want whatever’s in your ass to come out of it, so allow your provider to remove toys/fingers in a slow and controlled mannter. 

Keep in mind though, that no matter how well you prepped, all that moving and shaking may have caused some things to come loose. On occasion, some fecal matter will come out with fingers/toys. It’s honestly not a huge deal as long as it’s minimal, and if you prepped well, that’s exactly what it should be. 

However if the mess is more than it should be, your provider may make mention of it so that you’re better prepared next time. If your provider does mention it, take it to heart and make sure to follow all the advice linked in the document about anal prep. 

Keep the puppy pad/towel under your ass until you’re ready to hop in the shower. Trust me, you’ll want a shower, or at the very least, a thorough wipe-down with a wash cloth. 

And Scene! Fin. The End. You did it!

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You had your first anal experience and if all went well, you squicked, squeed, laughed, and enjoyed your whole way through it. If you’re into it, congratulations! You’ve found a new way to play with and enjoy your body. If it wasn’t your cup of tea? Don’t fret.  You shouldn’t feel obligated to continue on this path unless you truly want to. No shame in trying and deciding something isn’t for you. Should you want to try again and you liked the provider you saw, let her know! Of course, you can always seek out another provider and see if the experience is better for you (perhaps you’d even like to book me! If so, head here).

If you’d like more information, I’d recommend reading the entry above this one that’s geared towards tops. The more knowledge the better, right? I’m hoping you found this article helpful. 🙂

Happy playing!

xoxo

Erin

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10 Reasons You Should Spend Time With Me.

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Why, hello there! If this is your first time joining me, welcome to my tiny corner of colorful Internet space. If you’ve been here before, welcome back! Some of you are probably here because you googled “Chicago Prostate Massage Expert.” I certainly hope that’s true!

(This article is about the top 10 reasons to spend time with me. I highly suggest reading it, but if you’re looking more specifically for the benefits involved with prostate massage, please head here.)

I know that deciding to invest in spending time with me (or any provider, for that matter) can be quite a decision to make. Finding the time, the means, and the nerve to finally “pull the trigger” is a really special formula that doesn’t always happen as quickly or smoothly as we’d like to think it does.

I started running a few polls on Twitter, and while they don’t finish for another few days, the initial results have proven to be quite interesting.  While a majority of you cited the overall financial burden of seeing a provider as the number one reason for not booking (41% thus far), the other 59% of you have cited reasons that have nothing to do with cash flow. The second most common reason for not booking with a lady you’d like to see is normally scheduling issues and finding the time.

Y’all, seriously. Self-care is so critically important to keeping your mind, body, and spirit (if you’re into that sort of thing) operating at peak performance levels. Taking time to take care of yourself, even if just for an hour, can instantly improve your mood, your stress and anxiety levels, and help you feel happier throughout the day.

Seeing me, whether for an hour or for an evening, can have lasting positive effects on lots of different aspects of your life; here’s how!

1. Letting a Chicago prostate massage expert take care of you straight up feels amazing.

When you don’t have to think, plan, and execute, you can truly relax and let go. There’s a phenomenon known as “decision fatigue.” To explain, even if you’re physically not doing a lot throughout your day, the task of having to make continuous decisions is arduous and exhausting. Allowing someone else to make decisions for you (from taking the lead in bed to making dinner reservations) relieves some of that fatigue. I’m known to take the lead quite regularly, so all you need to do is show up and be present when you book with me.

2. There’s a ton of research out in the world that identifies stress as a major underlying cause of lots of health problems ranging from hypertension to coronary artery disease.

Coupled with our often sedentary lifestyles, this can lead to future problems. So, what does this have to do with self-care and seeing me, you ask? Well, you see, there’s research out there that states spending intimate time with another person, including booking a Chicago prostate massage, lowers systolic blood pressure (in the case of a 120/80 blood pressure reading, 120 is the systolic number).

3. Less is not more, and spending sensual, quality  time with me can lead to having more sensual, quality time in other aspects of your life.

When you have sex, your libido increases, and it can often be seen as a “use it or lose it” situation. So, if you’re looking to have more casual sexytime in your life, scheduling sexytime with a pro can jump-start that process!

4. Forms of self-care like meditation and exercise help lower your chances of having a heart attack later in life.

Relaxation + sex is a straight up 1-2 punch in a potential heart attack’s face. The sex part won’t replace vigorous exercising, but it does indeed count as moderate!

5. Have chronic pain issues like lower back pain, leg pain, or pain from injuries sustained earlier in life? Orgasms can help!

Whether that orgasm comes from yourself or another person, it matters not, but having someone else help achieve that goal is oftentimes way more fun and adventurous! Orgasms release endorphins, and endorphins help block pain receptors. Start working on being a little less pained by incorporating that orgasm into a session that includes massage, and tell pain to GTFOH.

6. Those of you who come to see me for one of my specialties may already know this, but regular Chicago prostate massage and regular orgasms can actually reduce the instances of prostate cancer.

Regular prostate stimulation helps get rid of potential infections that can oftentimes reside in the prostate. I’ll tell you this- I’ve been told my fingers and toys sure beat the hell out of heading to the doctor! Want to learn more about the benefits of prostate massage? Click here.

7. Orgasms help with insomnia.

I know I suffer from insomnia from time to time, and I’d guess you do too. Fortunately, all that stress relief coupled with a little hormone called prolactin can really help improve your sleep and sleep quality. You know when prolactin gets released? After orgasm! Couple that with having a super-awesome date beforehand and doing some private exploration and you’ve got the perfect recipe for much needed deep sleep. Ready to book? See my companionship rates here!

8. Skin to skin contact releases oxytocin, and that has major benefits.

Wanna know why? All these things release your body’s feel-good hormone, oxytocin. Having sex and being intimate can also increase your self-esteem and overall feelings of confidence.  Sex and sensual self-care aren’t just important for a healthy life, but also a happy one!

9. Self-care, be it sensual or otherwise, helps you develop love for yourself and love for your body.

Being kinder and gentler with yourself oftentimes means being kinder and gentler with others in your life, so the benefits of sensual self-care ripple outward into all aspects of your life! A Chicago prostate massage expert can really help put you and your body at ease.

10. While this reason isn’t the most important or the “deepest,” it’s probably the easiest to relate to. Spending time with me is straight up fun!

Having fun and playing are super important, and awesome ways to blow off steam. Creativity, playtime, and imagination are just as important now as they were when we were kids. Funtimes help elevate mood, relieve stress, and enhance overall well-being!

With that being said, take the time to take care of yourself fully. Don’t deny yourself the sensual and playful pleasures that come from spending time with me. Indulge yourself! Escape your workaday grind and just let go.

Hopefully I’ll be seeing more folks who need to be taken care of soon!

xoxo

Erin

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The Importance of Exploration and Why It’s Okay If Something Isn’t For You.

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Exploring is Awesome. So are boundaries.

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Quite frankly, as a Chicago kinky escort, sexual exploration is really one of my greatest joys in life.

I absolutely love guiding people and finding out what works and doesn’t work, what feels amazing and what someone could maybe do without.

When you set out on a journey in order to discover what it is you’re looking to experience, it can be overwhelming. Sex is seriously only limited by our imaginations!

With an infinite number of options at hand, where does one even decide to begin?

When I first started my own personal journey, I followed the blood trail, almost literally.  What kinds of thoughts and images got my blood rushing and made my cheeks flush? What made my pussy throb? What got me wet? Whether it was the Sleeping Beauty trilogy that Anne Rice wrote, or a book about sexual fantasies, I followed the trail.  Imagining myself in the situations described, or imagining doing those things to others, I started to find my path.

Eventually, I got to experience many of the things I’d only dreamed of, and the results were often quite mixed, especially in the beginning.

Living out fantasies is very different than having them. In your mind, you literally control every aspect of your fantasy world, and you can get as detailed as you like, right down to what someone’s breath smells like. That’s what makes fantasies so wonderful! They are literally perfect every single time. You’re also always in control, which is a very comfortable spot to be.

Once you start experimenting with bringing your fantasies to life, you have to take a few things into consideration (and by “a few”, I mean “a lot). The most important thing to remember is this:

We are humans. We are not perfect. And no one can realistically expect us (or our experiences) to be perfect, ever.

Your brain-time fantasies are oftentimes held as the zenith of perfection- and for getting off by yourself, that’s rad! Your fantasies should be exactly what you want them to be! When you add another person into the mix and start playing in real-time, your controlled fantasy environment seeks to be. Events and attitudes ebb and flow.  Something you’ve thought about for years and that’s gotten you hard for just as long can quickly turn into something you’d hope to never experience again (single-tail whippings are certainly hot in porn, but man are they painful).

Having a partner that you can communicate with and trust is really important.

Remember that if you’re seeking out a partner that has experience in an area that you don’t, you ultimately have the say in what happens to you.  If you want something to stop, you can either arrange a safe word ahead of time and use it in order to stop the action, or if you’re like me, (unless there is a certain type of play happening), when someone asks me to stop, I simply stop. Talking about what happened to cause the stopping is important, but more than likely, switching activities will redirect your playtime and keep things hot and saucy.

Again- we can never anticipate fully how we are going to react to certain types of play! This is something that even the most sexually adventurous people understand and embrace, and it makes playtime endlessly interesting and hot while also being mindful and compassionate.

Also keep in mind that some activities take time to enjoy- if a stimulus is new, it can be quite shocking to both our minds and bodies.

Of course, you may decide to never try that particular activity again, but i know full well that some of my favorite things definitely took some time to acquire a taste for.

Whatever you decide to explore, whether it’s role playing or impact play or golden showers or bondage or prostate play remember that you’re supposed to enjoy yourself! That’s the most important thing.

Until next time!

Erin

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Calling all Woman Clients!

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The first time I ever encountered a woman client was about two years ago.

She needed parts of herself fulfilled that she wasn’t getting through her marriage to a man. She identified herself as bisexual, and wanted to be dominated by a woman. I jumped at the chance, seeing that I’m a Chicago female escort for women. I absolutely love being with women, and its a rare chance when they’re also into being dominated.

We had such an excellent time together! She was adventurous, not afraid to ask for what she wanted and needed, and we both left the experience feeling fulfilled.  I’d seen her once more after that initial experience, and I do hope that she sees me again in the future.

To put it bluntly, I adore women.

I have since I was young, but I didn’t really identify with being bisexual until about age 16. I’d always been attracted to women in general throughout my earlier years, but the sexual aspect of it never translated until the hormones started raging and a group of us watched But I’m A Cheerleader.  That was the first night I’d ever been with a girl, and it’s a memory that I treasure (and I hope she does too).


I recently reached out to other sex workers via Twitter to find out how they gained their woman clientele.  Everyone wanted to see more women.

While not much help, it was nice to know that other providers were having the  the same problem. There’s a huge societal stigma concerning women actively pursuing their sexual wants and needs. The “virgin/hooker” paradox is a mighty strong confine. Being openly bisexual is also stigmatizing, even within the LGBTQ community. Many women who come out as bisexual often get told that “they’re just going through a phase,” or that “they’ll end up coming back to men.”  While some bisexual women are indeed partnered in either same or opposite sex couplings, that doesn’t negate their bisexuality.

Navigating bisexuality/pansexuality as a provider can be hard.  I feel that at this stage in the game, I’m finally figuring out just how to use my fluid sexuality so clients can find me.

I hope I can appeal to more women searching for a Chicago female escort for women. Women should not be ashamed to seek out pleasure in this manner. Dating is a nightmare.  Meeting people who can fulfill your desires can be difficult. Women should have the same societal access to hired companionship as men.  Women should be as guilt-free about pleasure-focused encounters as men.

An eye-opening discussion occurred on The Erotic Review.  There are a few resident women hobbyists there, and luck for me, they’ve spoken up.  The feedback from these women prompted me to stress that my services are gender-inclusive.  It was also suggested that escorts seeking women clients should adjust their images and websites to make them more attractive to women.

I decided to take that advice. I want to make it very clear that I welcome all women.

If you’re a woman and reading this, I hope that you’ll consider contacting me. I can’t wait to hear from you!

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More about my style of play.

More on my style of play

Many of you have found your way to me because you’re looking to expand your sexual horizons, or you already have tastes that are epicurean.

You’ve definitely come to the right place; I absolutely adore catering to fetishists, bdsm players, and of course those looking to simply broaden their horizons and experiment!

Sensuality is really important to me.  I know there are those of you out there who love the idea of being with a voluptuous, tattooed bbw, but don’t necessarily want the kink. This is of course a possibility! Everyone enjoys variety, and I am absolutely no different. As a sensual hedonist, I really enjoy all sorts of sexytime exploits, and romantic, sensual encounters are definitely on the list of things I enjoy!

As a kink-oriented individual by nature, my tendencies lean towards service topping and dominance.  Serivce-topping is a really specific term that essentially means that I love doing things to you that you want me to do. Longing for someone to strap up and take you from behind? Into it. Interested in experiencing prostate massage for the first time with someone who is patient and well-versed? Into it.  Curious about loss of control, me taking you to the edge and back, and building you to one of the most intense orgasms you’ll ever have? Into it. 

My toy and equipment collection is pretty extensive.  Perhaps, you might even have some fantasies that involve cross-dressing, lingerie, shoes, and other sensual items.  I absolutely love this kind of play and love gender-bending/gender fuckery (as long as it’s in no way demeaning or humiliating)! We’re really only limited by our imaginations!

 Rougher, dominant, woman-led sexual experiences are some of my favorites; I love to take control and tell you exactly what I want, when and how I want it.

I love being pleased and using people for my own pleasure.  Do you want me to ravish you completely with no signs of letting up? into it. Want to spend time worshipping every inch of my curvy, soft body? Into it. 

Because I entered into this world as a professional dominatrix and mistress, I still thoroughly enjoy more traditional BDSM sessions as well.

From flogging and caning to spanking and other forms of impact play to electrical play, heavy bondage and more, I’m well-versed and very educated in safe, sane, consensual play. I especially love role play that takes on the form of me as a disciplinarian (Mommy and Teacher especially) and you as my naughty boy or student.  Please note that while I can be a stern mommy, teacher, or disciplinarian, I’m only physically and mentally sadistic when someone expresses that want. I am not into guessing your needs or wants in any way

Consensual non-consent sessions are best once we’ve gotten to know one another.  I am not a mean-spirited or cruel person.  I revel in your delight in submission and exploration and have no desire to “force” you to do anything unless it is specifically pre-arranged and part of a role play.

Here’s a list of activities I love:

  • Anal training
  • Body Worship (ass, feet, legs, etc)
  • Bondage (cling film, tape, cuffs, rope)
  • CBT
  • Chastity Training/key holding
  • Corporal Punishment and Impact Play
  • Cross-dressing/panty play
  • Cuckold Play (real or role play)
  • Doubles/triples Sessions with my favorite ladies/gentlemen
  • Edging
  • Face Sitting/Smothering
  • Face Slapping
  • Fetish clothing, such as leather, latex, stockings, and lingerie
  • Fisting
  • Humiliation
  • Medical Play/Sounding (basic scenes)
  • Nipple Play/Torture
  • Objectification/Human Furniture
  • Pegging/Strap-on training/Strap-on worship
  • Play Piercing
  • Prostate Massage
  • Role Play (Doctor/patient, Teacher/student, Age Play Race Play, etc).
  • Sensory Play/Sensory Deprivation
  • Spanking (especially OTK)
  • Sploshing/Messy Play
  • Spitting
  • Tease and Denial
  • TENS unit
  • Temperature Play
  • Tickling/Tickle Torture
  • Trampling
  • Toys for boys
  • Violet/Neon Wand
  • Watersports
  • Wax Play

I know that this list is really extensive, but its really reflective of where my personal interests are! If you’re unfamiliar with any of these terms, please do Google them.  If your particular interest isn’t listed here, please feel free to contact me! All session negotiations are done after screening is completed, so once that’s done, we can really get into the nitty-gritty about what you’re looking for.

I hope this helps everyone understand that my style of play is intensely sensual, thoroughly indulgent, and all-encompassing. I can’t wait to play!

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