Updated Fun Facts!

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Updated Fun Facts!

In depth and random facts about BBW escort in Chicago, Erin Black

The last time I did this blog post was 2015. Some things have definitely changed while others have stayed the same (and would; I can’t change my ethnic background, after all).

It’s interesting to see how my politics, attitudes, and boundaries have shifted and changed over three years, and even more interesting to think about how they’ve changed since I first started working in late 2012.

So, without further ado, here are some answers to questions I get more frequently than not that are of a more personal nature.

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Erin, what’s your background? Are you mixed? What’s the deal?”

I honestly have no idea where people come up with the idea that I’m more than just white, but I STILL get asked this question a lot. My ethnic background is about as northern/western European as it gets. I’m British, Irish, German, Polish, and Sicilian. I did one of those 23andMe things, and it showed exactly what I’ve been told all my life, along with a smattering of Sardinian (unsurprising, seeing as how Sicily and Sardinia are in pretty close proximity).

So I’m white. Very white. White-privileged white.

“What’s your sexual orientation? How would you describe your gender?”

This question is pretty complicated and nuanced, and for those reasons I normally don’t get too deep into this, but here we go.

My sexual orientation is bi/pansexual. I’m female by birth assignment, and my assigned sex aligns with my gender. I identify as a woman and my pronouns are she/her. My relationship style is non-monogamy leaning towards polyamory.

When it comes to kink orientations, I really don’t care to be called “Mistress.” I prefer “Miss,” “Goddess,” “Erin,” or “Daddy.” I am FAR more a Daddy than I am a Mistress. While we’re on BDSM terminology, I don’t refer to submissives as “slaves.” Being a service top is very much part of my sexual identity as well.

“Have you been effected by FOSTA?”

I personally don’t know anyone who hasn’t been effected by FOSTA, myself included. However, the effects I’ve felt haven’t done things such as put me in harms way or forced me to see clients I wouldn’t normally see.  I’m not nearly as busy as I have been in the past due to losing ad platforms and constantly having to readjust my advertising and marketing schema, but those annoyances are slight in comparison.

It’s that whole “white-privileged white” thing, and it makes a huge difference.

If you’re curious about how other workers have been effected, I’d suggest reading and following Black politically-oriented sex workers like @RebelleCunt and @ThotScholar on Twitter. They’re both brilliant.

“You really seem to do a lot, between being an escort, running a consulting business, maintaining websites and a server, and all the other things you do. How do you maintain balance? Do you even have time to see me?”

I do have time to see you, but that’s why booking in advance is SO IMPORTANT. While I do a lot of things, all of those things added up probably account for full-time work when put together. I just break up my work in different manners and can’t necessarily “leave work at work” since I work for myself.

I keep things balanced by doing a lot of yoga, making time to be social with people outside of this industry, and sleeping in longer than I probably should. 😉

“I’d really love to see you, but I’m not kinky at all and have no interest in it. Can I still spend time with you?”

ABSOFUCKING-LUTELY! Kink is a lot of fun, but I can certainly have too much of a good thing. It’s really nice to get cozy with someone in softer, more romantic ways. Everyone enjoys some level of variety, and moving away from kink, for me, is variety that I not only enjoy, but that I need in order to feel balanced.

So yes! Book me, even if you’re not interested in kink! 😀

“How long have you been doing this? Why don’t you have reviews? Where can I learn more about you?”

I’ve been doing sex work since late 2012, so I’ll be coming up on my sixth anniversary in November of this year. By some standards, that makes me “old-school,” but trust me. There are others who have been in the business FAR LONGER than I have.

I don’t have reviews because I delisted from TER back in January. I possess my reviews, but no longer wish to participate in review culture. Considering some folks won’t read an ad, I’m hard-pressed to believe that folks who ask for reviews would be willing to get at them through TER anyway; TER delisted all American-based escorts, and doesn’t allow US-based IP addresses to access the site. So you’d need to use a VPN to get around that.

You can learn more about me by following me on Twitter and Instagram (links in the footer), signing up for my newsletter (it’s occasional, I promise), or by booking a date with me and taking me out to dinner. 😉

That’s really it for now! I should be sending out a newsletter here once I have firm dates for NYC, so for those of you interested in booking me for my NYC trip in October, be sure to sign up for the mailing list and check back here for updates.

xoxo

Erin

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#NayFOSTA and some grassroots movement.

#nayfosta

#Nayfosta, a grassroots movement.

Fuck fosta with #Nayfosta

FOSTA, the Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act, may have originally began with it’s heart in the right place. I don’t think it’s far-fetched to say that we, as non-trafficked individuals, find it appalling and abhorrent that anyone would coerce anyone else into selling services they don’t want to sell. #nayfosta

We can all agree that people who are working in this industry against their own wills should be helped. They should be aided. And perhaps in conversations prior to the actual legislation finalization, this is what those lawmakers intended. #nayfosta

However, due to the vague language of FOSTA, there are very real and very dangerous impacts that those of us working of our own volition are dealing with. Those of us who rely and depend on this work to feed ourselves, house our families, pay our bills, and live life as best we can under capitalism. For those of us who make a willing living via sex work, FOSTA has been devastating. It’s made access to advertising platforms a nightmare, sent people who were safely working indoors back to the streets, and forced sex workers to make decisions that shouldn’t have to be made.

Sex work is real work. Sex work is a profession. Sex work can even, for some, be a calling.

What I’m asking here is no small feat. It will require work and effort on a part of the entire sex work community, both clients and providers alike. It will take work, but if we do this correctly, we have the potential to change the way we engage with one another online forever. This is not a catch-all solution; no solution is. But what this solution provides is the democratization of tech knowledge and search engine optimization theories that are accessible to other businesses and folks with know-how, and even accessible to us via social media.

You hashtag Twitter, Instagram, and Tumblr. Now it’s time to hashtag your website.

#NayFOSTA is a unique hashtag that no one has used yet. It’s not cataloged by any search engine, but it could be. Search engines catalog hashtags and return results on them for search queries.

We need to implement this system as a way to be seen. We can show that we support sex work as real work, as a real choice. FOSTA states that there’s no difference between someone working in the sex trade of their own volition, and one who’s trafficked. We know better.  People need to work, and this work would be made easier if we could facilitate easy connections between clients and providers.

I’m asking you all to start hashtagging your websites with #NayFOSTA, preferably within a blog post. There will be other methodologies to do this too, mainly through website code and metadata, the systems of which I’ll explain as time goes on. By hashtagging your websites with #NayFOSTA, what you’re doing is including your website to be cataloged, by Google, for that hashtag.

If every escort in the world with a free or paid website did this, Google would become the biggest escort directory in the world. It would bypass advertising platforms. It would bypass any kind of advertising middle-man, and any website, be it free or paid, could utilize this hashtag.

Incorporating #NayFOSTA with other descriptor hashtags like #Chicago, #BBW, #Blonde, etcetera, would allow clients to further refine their searches and more easily find what they’re looking for.

This little bit of backend work, which I’m going to lead you through, will solve the main issue of what could have been a solid piece of legislation. #NayFOSTA will simultaneously support the anti-trafficking sentiments of the legislation, identify us as non-trafficked workers engaging in the market of our own volition, and make it so our clients can do the same.

I hope that you’ll join me in creating the movement for undertaking.

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